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the lady
# veron
# 29 yrs old
she loves
# him
# and him
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Knowing is not enough;
we must apply.
Willing is not enough;
we must do.
:Goethe:
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The first step is to realize there is a problem. So, to start you'll need to understand how they are harmful to your relationship. Before taking any action, decide what it is about that person that is a negative influence. Do they make harmful comments? Do they fail to be supportive? Are they draining you emotionally or financially? Really take a look at the overall effect the person is having on your life. Once you've determined to what extent they are a problem, you'll need to figure out a way to dissolve the effect they are creating. The most effective way is to remove them from your relationship completely. That means no more communication. First, you will need to cut off communication for as long as you possibly can. View this period of time as one of getting back to what is more important. You'll know when the time is right to make contact again. If you can't remove them, find a way to remove yourself for a short time as this alone time for you as a couple is extremely important. The point is that when friends are an outside influence causing problems in a relationship, they will continue to create conflicts until they destroy the relationship or until they are found out. For example, "How to know if your partner is faithful to you?" causes you to have doubts about your partner.
1. Don't nag!
Every couple needs to have some basic common points of agreement in order to succeed. These "agreements" could be as simple as you both know you want children, or that you both have similar moral values. One of the hardest situations to deal with is when one partner is obviously more committed to the relationship than the other. It may be because one loves the other more, or it could be that one of you is just not ready to make a commitment yet. Everyone deserves to be treated with value and love. If you have a partner who doesn't respect you, talk to them about it. Let them know how you feel. After some period of time you do have to put in effort to keep it alive. It doesn't have to be much. In fact, the most romantic people I know just take the time to do the little things to make their partner feel special. Make a commitment to do something romantic at least every day. Commitment is the greatest key to a successful relationship. If you are committed you will always find a way to work things out. Nothing can damage a relationship more than dishonesty, even white lies. In every case, honesty is the best policy. This also means... don't put yourself in situations you feel the need to lie about. Relationships are built on trust. Once broken it's very difficult to rebuild. Avoid, at any cost, falling into this trap. Trust is an important part of any relationship and it needs to be developed. If you say you are going to do something and don't, then how can your partner rely on you in the future? Treat your partner with respect.
Friday, July 22, 2005
I cannot get to sleep! I flipped here and there. So i am here now to write off what was on my mind. I have been wanting to write about this.
Wednesday, July 13, 2005
My voice has not totally recover today. Been going through the detox program for 2 days now. Seems ok. 2+ pm she came online. Told me she changed her phone number. I was shocked. Then closed the friendster account. I didnt really wanted her to close it, maybe just remove some things in it will do. What's done is done. What can i say? She did all these to prove to me. I have to trust her..
Tuesday, July 12, 2005
不打不骂是祸害
Woke up not feeling as much pain like yesterday. I am feeling better but still no voice. =[
Who likes being left disappointed anyway? At least I don't and that is why i never say things which i think i cannot do. I don't want others to feel it too. As time goes by, it is hard to regain one's trust for him or her. Setting an example myself is a good guide to people who loves to 开空头支票.
Days ago she sms me "i not using friendster,msn anymore". Days has passed. It made me stop and wonder if she really meant what she says and what she had typed in friendster. Seened her replying to messages and messaging. Am i seeing things or am i just too sick?
A rat running pass right in front of me in my room. Woke mummy up. Told me she dont know how to catch and went back to sleep. -____-"
Monday, July 11, 2005
It is the second day today. My throat is not getting any better. I need to see a doctor seriously. I cannot talk if i go alone.
I had a dream. I found a nokia phone in my dream, it is white. Woke up in the morning feeling pain in the throat. First time in my life i felt this kind of pain. Difficulty in swallowing even saliva.. and totally no voice. I cannot talk for the whole day today! =( I had things to say...
Wednesday, July 06, 2005
I had a thought just when i was sleeping. I decided to give it a try for a month since i have to wait for another month to book for the ROM date. What i am going to try for this month is.. during this one month, if there is any tiffs regarding friends again, consideration about booking the date is over. It can't work now; it won't either later. Let's just pray hard :)
Tuesday, July 05, 2005
Full of disappointments.
Monday, July 04, 2005
Pause for a moment and think if you are ready to commit. If you are still asking for freedom or you are complaining about lacking of outings, the truth is you are not ready for any commitments.
I start to wonder whether my eyes are making fun of me. Recently, i kept seeing things moving from it's original position. A moment it was here, the next moment it got shifted.. Hmmmm...
I made it finally for the first time last night. Feeling was great!!! Tired then.. =p